Part1: What Anti's Don't Say About Child Birth

Anti's would have women believe that raising a child is something we must do without a second thought. Never do they mention the life altering responsibility women carry through pregnancy and after birth. As too many women state, when they mentioned wanting an abortion to their personal doctor too many were met with a speech about the "joys of motherhood". For some women this is news worthy of joy; the women who want and are ready to be a mother. This is not an anti-childbirth post, rather it is a post to say it is okay to feel something other than 'joy' about pregnancy. You are not alone. Additionally, if you feel the fetus to be child is unwanted, that does not make you a bad person as some anti's would have you believe. That means you are realistic and don't want to bring an unwanted being into this world to suffer. This makes you a GOOD woman.

First, I wanna talk about the side of raising a child no one tells women about. Being that I've never had a child (but have been pregnant and aborted thankfully) I have interviewed random women who have children; women of different ages, grandmothers included, financial positions, nationalities, jobs, students and teens.Though I am positive they all loved their children more than one told me they regretted giving birth. Finally, I've also posted information from the internet.

Two years ago I watched my sister-in-law, who I've always admired and who always had everything together, struggle and lose confidence while getting used to being a mother. She desperately wanted the baby, and she is a great mother as is her precious child. But I remember thinking, wow, if someone as strong as she struggles, how am I going to handle pregnancy? 

No one talks about the change in life pregnancy brings. It almost seems they are trying to use forced motherhood and in some cases marriage as well to show their are consequences in having sex. Yes, there are. But those consequences should not ruin the lives of those involved; especially